What is Co-Dependency?
Codependent relationships are, according to Webster’s dictionary, a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person's drug addiction, alcoholism, gambling addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. Given its grassroots origin, the precise definition of codependency varies based on the source but can be generally characterized as responsibility run amuck. Responsibility, in balance, is something most of us strive for. However, in co-dependency, there is usually one person who is overly responsible and one person, lacking in responsibility in one area or another. When one is “co-dependent”, the goal in therapy is to get a more balanced view of self, and to balance the responsibility one feels, by realizing we are only responsible for ourselves, how we respond, our thoughts and actions. Our time together will be in self exploration to find your core beliefs about yourself and how to create a balanced view of self that matches with your actions. Realizing the difference between what you do not have control over and what you do have control over, will help you to design the life you desire.